"And all of a sudden I wondered what was she thinking while she got undressed? What did other people think? What did other children think when they weren't with me? Then it suddenly struck me that I hadn't ever realized that they thought at all when they weren't with me. I turned away from the window, and I was frightened, because people must think while they got undressed at night, not only people across the court, but strange people on the street, people I passed walking to the park, and children in the park. It still frightens me." Camilla by Madeleine L'Engle
Can you remember the first time you realized you were an individual and separate from everyone else and thus alone?
P.S. I bought myself the ring from Made Her Think...my willpower is weak.
Outfit details: shirt- secondhand customized by me, dress- H&M, tights- gift, shoes- H&M, rings- Made Her Think
Can you remember the first time you realized you were an individual and separate from everyone else and thus alone?
P.S. I bought myself the ring from Made Her Think...my willpower is weak.
Outfit details: shirt- secondhand customized by me, dress- H&M, tights- gift, shoes- H&M, rings- Made Her Think
Outfit details: dress- H&M (customized), sweater- H&M, shoes- gift, necklace- gift
101 comments:
To answer your question-it was when I moved to Cali from MN to go to college and knew NOBODY!I was alone in every way! I met friends, but still had to leave-me and California were just not in love. You look fab-LOVE the tee over the striped dress!
I don't remember it exactly!In fact I have always had a strong sense of the individuality of every human being. I like being different and enhance what mekes me different from other people, but at the same time I know that somehow we are all the same in this big world we're in. Wow, really deep thoughts for a Monday!
I love the t-shirt layered over the dress--so cute. That's a really interesting quote. I've thought a lot about strange epistemology issues like that, but I don't really remember the first time it came up. It's sometimes hard to believe that at any given time, everyone in the world is thinking about something.
Absolutely love that t-shirt and the rings are fabulous :) I learnt that we are all alone through 5 years of eating lunch by myself at primary school, not the best of times, but character building nonetheless - it did allow for me to develop a very colourful imagination!
I never thought of wearing the first dress like you did but it looks adorable. I love it.
I don't know if I've ever had a revelatory moment of realising I was an individual - I guess I've always known. When I was a kid I was the 'weird' kid, with the Spanish grandparents and the 'posh' accent (or so the kids at school thought), so I've always known that everyone is different I suppose.
I love the stars dress - when stars were really trendy I never really liked it that much but I love that dress now.
I agree with Dapper Kid, eating lunch at school alone or visits to the library by myself did build character. I knew I was different but only based on what other people thought of as different, and compared to their perspectives. Now, I love how I was always comfortable in my own individuality, even when people were so uncomfortable with me.
Funny outfit, but I like it...
xoxo: Janet
I was always a loner during school, even though I had my regular group of friends during high school. But in truth, I never really liked them and spent my lunches reading a book while they gabbed. I guess I always knew that people were ultimately alone in the world, but, as Dapper Kid and Diana have already pointed out, it builds character. I got a better sense of who I was and a better sense of my individuality, which led me to be the 23 year old loner I am today, haha.
And I just have to say...you make wearing all black look so charming.
You look great! I love, love the ring!
Mh...I think I realized that everyone is an individual back at High School because I was not the well-liked kid and I had to spend much time alone back then. But I learned a lot from this experience...really being an individual and staying true to oneself is one of the most important things imho.
It is really weird, sometimes when I am wandering through the streets, I become aware that everyone whom I pass has different thoughts, a different life and different opinions than I do~*crazy...
The rings are beautiful and different, great buy. ^^
i think i realized that when i was in 8th grade and these horrible rumors started about me...
i love the star dress! so cute
i love the first outfit so much.. and I've kind of always had these thoughts, from since I was little, like: I am me, I could have been someone else but I am me.. and that other people see the world from their eyes and not mine, and they think for themselves and stuff and it was kinda weird because I was about six, seven when I thought so.. :p
You know what's even more profound? Realizing that we are all one again, and that we are not individuals alone, that separate individuals do not in fact exist...
cute outfits, as always:) i especially like the first one
I relaized it in grade school, for sure. And its made me such a stronger individual. Its hard to get threw it once your there though because all you want to do is be accepted.
Love all the outfits! The star dress is sooo cute!!
xoxo
I prefer not to think it... The last dress is soooo cute! you look adorable in it!
I love that tee over the dress, it's a really cool look.
I think I probably realized I was separated from everyone else when I decided I liked reading and thus became somewhat of a loner for a few years because I was always reading a book and never socializing. But now things are better, I still read all the time but I'm more social.
your collection of rings is quite amazing! i love big rings!
Those are really cute outfits =)
The alone thing... I used to be this totally into like, I need friends I love friends person, and after senior year of high school I've just been looking for a balance. But seriously, I wish more people would understand the need for alone time. We may be social beings... but too much of it is so tiring. I guess its a phase people go through?
The first outfit is so not you. I actually like it!...
Yes, I do remember. I think about it many times when I'm alone. I wondered what people were doing when not with me and then I wondered if they wondered what I was doing when I was alone. And then if everyone went away... how I'd be alone. And then the thought of dead comes along but that's just too frightening.
Eh, screw willpower. The ring was worth it!
And I love the striped dress paired with the tee. They somehow just go together so well.
Haha, well I'm such a 'getter' am I not? :p joking. But I do think that people aren't 'alone' or anything because we gave that word the definition of 'having no one (else) around' or something, with a bad choice of words of mine that is.. but still, you have friends and family and you're only alone in the fact that other people don't have your eyes and your thoughts, but that's only logical. you can still make people understand what you see and think, so I don't think we're much alone.
You're so cute! Very good outfits.
I can't remember when I first realized people were individuals and felt alone, but it seems like I've always known. Though I'd say I didn't really think about what other people were thinking until I was in high school, probably.
it was in grade four when I saw people looking at me and not in a nice way, and when they would tell jokes i didn't get. then i learned not to care!
I loooove all of the different ways that you wear things- it's so much fun to look at your pics and say, "Wait! There's that striped dress again! I think. Maybe. Right?"
Hee hee. But really- I love the t-shirt over it. It gives that dress a completely different element of sophistication.
I can't remember the first time that I had a sense of individuality. You know, and it makes sense, considering I'm a twin. I was never alone growing up, she has always been nearby and to a certain extent, she's a part of me. I think it's just different for us twins, you know? Even though I live 700+ miles away from her now, I've never had a sense of being alone. It's strange.
Wowee, two outfits in one post! You're spoiling us... especially with that first outfit which I just absolutely adore.
Oh, btw, I have posted a communal tag on my blog and I would espesh like to see you do it! x
love the layering in that first outfit!!
Oh I love (!) that first outfit. So simple, but so stylish. Then again, I have this weakness for everything striped =]
You're absolutely gorgeous, and you bear your outfits well!
x
I love the dress you have on in your last five pictures, and the necklace... I basically love the outfit as a whole =)
Stripes AND stars! And gorgeous ones too! :) I love that stripey dress! Especially the different ways you wear it.
xx
You should tie up your hair more often. It looks very good!
That's a great question...that I don't know the answer to.
i envy your ability to remix!
especially in the morning, I always lack of imagination...then I wear the same outfit over and over again, trying to avoid people i met the previous days.
Good question. I think it coincided with me learning to read, and realizing that I had this wonderful imaginary literary world in my head that those not reading the same book at that moment had no access to.
I really really love your first outfit and writing style, but I disagree with you on one point: I don't think being an individual makes you "alone". I hope it doesn't seem like I'm attacking you, I'm just pointing that out. :-)
I loved Madeleine L'Engle growing up (still do)! I don't think there was ever a definately moment for me. When I was little I was so lost the books, I don't that other people (except my family) mattered that much to me.
I can't remember that moment at all and feel very much like I'm missing out.
Love all your jewelry!
Hey, you brought that shirt back. I love that thing.
thats a sad thought, I suppose I was about three, an only child always playing alone.
From time to time I've wondered what people think of me, but that was a while ago. Now I really want to know!
I LOVE you rings and dress. So cute and wonderful!
You are always dressed superbly, I do love it. I love your rings too, soooo good! I'm glad I'm making you want to eat, my constant eating is starting to make me feel a little guilt but if everyone else feasts away then I won't mind so much - herd mentality and whatnot. x
You take typography? How fabulous! I am exceedingly jealous. That first picture is perfection, I love the striped sleeves poking out, and all of your rings, I am not a ring person really, but wish I was. And that star dress is divine.
-indigo
oh girl how i love that necklace you'r wearing in the last photos :)
nice outfits !!
thank you :)
love both dresses, black and white are always a great combination!
also the second outfit shoes are very pretty!
have a nice week
xx
That's a really interesting thought. For as long as I can be remember, I felt very different from everyone around me. I just didn't begin to embrace it until much later in life.
btw, the tee over the dress looks great on you.
I love your rings.
I love your ballet flats and your striped dress.
You look adorably cute!!
xoxo
Stephanie
www.modernantoinette.blogspot.com
wow! I love your outfit!...oh oh don't be jealous now...because weather in SoCal right now..it's like one day hot and one day rain...hahahaha..
i think iveways known that i was alone.. very emotional child lol
i love the rings
XX
Vi from Cali
Adorable!
I love the star dress, it's amazing!
And you bought that awesome ring! Cool.
Aww This is a lovely entry. I love that striped dress! And you look so pretty in the first photo :)
Aww This is a lovely entry. I love that striped dress! And you look so pretty in the first photo :)
When I moved from NY to Alabama I didn't know anybody and felt culture shocked. I really did feel alone. At times I wanted to cry and felt like I was ready to go back to NY. I think sticking it out really helped me discover my individuality. And now I've been here for almost three years, but will move again around August.
My individuality has always been a firm realization in my life. I am an only child, so it was always almost like I was overly aware, however now that I'm in college, I find myself a bit less self-reliant and competing again to find my true sense of self...
oh my goodness, I love all of these photos-i'd have to say that my favorite is the ones of the first looks for sure :)
Darling outfits makes me wish I had a camera so I could take pictures of some of the outfits I wear.
uh I've always been unique I suppose. I don't think no one is a complete individual except for a select few. I think realized I was unique when I tried to give out valentines cards to people months after valentines day in kindergarten. People thought I was weird.
Yeah I noticed the movie I was watching about coco Chanel only focused on her first two romances. I'm thinking of finding a biography so I can find out more about her.
hmm i can't remember a specific time..i know when i was little i was very shy and kept to myself and felt alone but i think i realize it more as i get older being an individual person..the more i think the more my mind gets all crazy so i try to stop myself from going there hahaha
i do love both outfits and the stripes are fantastic...the star dress is my fave =)
this is a great quote/question. i think the first time i remember being separate from other people is when i would go to my babysitter's house and everything smelled differently - not bad, just different.
you look so different with your hair pulled back! i like it!
I love those shoes! Those little bows are precious in a good way.
first things first.
i love the blue nail
your black printed shirt is Awesome!!!!
those rings are so rock and roll chic! i love em all.
well when i was younger i used to live my life according to people's standard, and the more i get older i've realized am imprisoning myself with their idea of me. I am not a bad person, am too good in fact that i can't be me! then on my 27th bday, enough is enough, am gonna live my life that i want, dress what i fancy and damn them all and their ridiculous opinions. it turns out, am much happier now!
Am turning 29 this march 15! i am HAPPY! HAPPY HAPPY
I realized it at a young age and sometimes would physically separate myself from others to play and do things alone. I can remember comparing being alone to being with friends and really wondering if the thoughts of my friends were similar in any way to my own.
I really like how you've worn the shirt over the dress. Nice ring! In this case weak willpower was quite rewarding :)
I've always been different - can't change genetics :(
PS love how you add movement to so many of your shots. Makes it so alive.
Love how you are wearing a tee over your 3/4 sleeve dress, I dont know why i havent thought of that. LOOKS FAB! love the black and white stripes too
hi, i love your blog, it gives so much inspiration!
what brand of nailpolish did u use for your blue nailpolish? i love it to bits!
I love the first outfit! It's great to see you in a "different" style.
Unfortunately I don't really remember first time I realized I was my own individual.
the dress is great, can't wait spring!! and the pics are lovely.
wowo you are pretty hardcore with your brass-knuckles and new ring now :) but still u manage to look girly and soft. like that about your outfits. was wondering, is your nailpolish blue or purple??
Probably when I wore an op shopped skirt to school and everyone looked at me funny. I finally felt like I was home :)
love your hairstyle ;) different and fresh. haha. although i love it with your bangs down too!
the pattern on that customized shirt is fantastic! and lovely rings too!
polkadot dress... and the flats and the green coat... i love it!
Love the first oufift specially the t-shirt!!
It´s becoming a great free style!
LOVING that star-sprinked dress! it is too adorable--i find you do those cutesy looks really well.
cheers babe!
have added you to my links already, can we trade?
cheers
andrea oxoxoxx
Life In Technicolor
i dont know if it was the first time but i do remember getting this feeling once as a kid and it rushes back to me everytime i feel alone/in a strange place.
love the first outfit. that tshirt is so awesome!
omg can you be any cuter!? lol. i lovee the stripey dress and the one with the stars on it -very chanel!
i LOVE that necklace and those nails!
Your first photo is so cute! It feels so original!
I need a striped dress. Why don't I have one already?
That's such an interesting quote. I love your jewellery, and that first picture of you is gorgeous.
That quote is beautiful... I used to believe that I was alone and not part of anything when I was younger. But when I went to uni and returned it felt like I had missed out on so much of my family. I then realised I was never alone, not all the time. In the grand scale of things I am, and I know I will never make a dent on even 1% of the people in this world, but I hope I at least make a dent on the people of my world.
x
p.s. I love that shirt! And I would kill for a knuckleduster ring.
I love the tee over the striped dress. And those rings are reaaally awesome.
I actually do remember when I realized that other people are just like me but living very different lives....as in..someone else is sitting in the car next to me just like I am but thinking very different things and living a very different life....weird.
I like the stripes
The stars dress is lovely but I adore how you wore that striped dress in the first outfit! You're so creative with your pieces!
Babes, that tee shirt is GORGEOUS, what did you do it?
I always read your posts and I love your blog.
I usually don't comment, but this time I had to comment, because I loved your outfit with the striped H&M dress! It was so lovely!
Also, do you know where a good place to buy cute, relatively inexpensive flats is?
being an individual.... i have no idea when i first realised this. actually, no i do. haha. i realised that i was not...fitting in? and thus, alone when i was in highschool. spending all my time in the library while the other girls were out socialising, putting on make up...etc.
fairly lonely. but i was still happy reading :)
although..the fact that all the other girls sort of...grouped together and did the same things and wore the same things, didn't make me feel as if they were individuals. it just made me stick everyone into categories!
anyway, love the outfits! and the rings!!! i feel as if i've never seen you with your hair tied back. or maybe i just can't remember. but you look lovely!
Oh the starry dress! I always forget about it...then you conjure up a new way to make it look amazing and I remember.
i'm still realizing!
...cute post!
I've always loved the flowery top above and the starry dress below! I remember being astounded that I would never ever know what others were thinking. It floored me. And made me feel quite alone.
Thank you for your comment on the Raf Simons. It was the most helpful. You're right. The lines are the focus. It's completely meditative.
i actually love this dresss.beautiful blog :]
Great outfits :D
the second outfit is such a pretty one-very sweet!
i love both those outfits! they are so fun and wonderful. and i think i am in love with your green jacket. :)
-tangerine
Hey this is the first time I've seen you without your bangs. =)
I adore that green jacket! It's lovely!
I love your entire outfit. The dress especially! :D I have a thing for stars :)
I love the stripe dress and the tee. so cute
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Cannot decide which dress I like better! Probably the stars - that fabric is just gorgeous. Although the shirt over the stripes looks ace...
Too many beautiful outfits girly!
I love the first set.. I didnt recognize you at first! It was so different from anything you've posted wearing before.
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