For example, it really bugged me when my coworkers stated that I always just breeze by whenever they seem to be working hard, implying that I am not. Now, while it was stated as a joke, I think there is a nugget of true feeling behind the words. It’s frustrating because in reality today: my back was sore, my eyes were tired, and I just want to crawl into bed and not continue with my job (or the day at all), but instead I presented a smiling and willing façade ready to do whatever was tossed my way. This is partly because I believe presentation is important (hello, style blog!) and also because I don’t like to admit my weaknesses.
Another aggravation I frequently feel is: people believing I spend more on my clothes than I do. I don’t like to talk about money matters and the price of things, because I was just raised in a family where it wasn’t polite. So, the seemingly large wardrobe comes from..? It is partly the illusion of styling and partly the result of extreme frugality. I don’t go out to eat (ever, ask my co-workers), I live on campus in a tiny dorm room, no vehicle (which means no gasoline, no insurance, and also no transportation), etc. Secondly, I always shop in the sale section and frequent secondhand and vintage stores. So, how much money do I spend? Not as much as you think. First off, I work at a minimum wage job, which means I don’t make a lot. The most expensive item I have ever bought was $98 prom dress which I used gift cards on to actually pay far less than that. I consider a $60 item a splurge—yes, you heard me $60 is a splurge, if I buy an item costing that much it will probably be the only thing I buy for at least a week. This is not to say I have problems with spending more on quality items; when I have the money I fully intend to indulge myself in many of the items I admire, but I quite frankly do not have the funds at the moment.
So, being the cheapskate, broke college student that I am, I do get touchy when people comment on my shopping habits/affordability of my wardrobe. Admittedly I am being sensitive about this, but I think it is important for people to know that style can’t be bought. I just felt the need to the clear the air some…
This is probably the only time I will do this, but let’s break down my outfit and its cost: Dress- vintage secondhand ($2.50), belt- secondhand ($1.00), shoes- Urban Outfitters sale ($20), bag- gift
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somehow you remind me of the Poison Ivy from Batman :) the red hair and the leaf bag.. great pictures!
You make a very valid point that style can't be bought and I believe that those who create such an impeccable and unique warbrobe with little fundhing should be that much more admired. Although I do believe you are blessed by thrifting gods because I find it impossible to find such adorable things for so little money!
I feel your pain. There's times when people comment on my brightness as if I don't do any hard work that stresses me out. My job is very stressful, but like you, I think presentation is very important and that you shouldn't try to make it look like you're working or doing something hard.
Bright people that make things look effortless will always bring happiness, so if I were you I'd try hard to keep up with your youth and brightness! I love your blog and your writing, and don't let people bring you down!
definitely agree, style can't be bought. i get alot of emails and comments now about the stuff im ebay selling complaining that it's no unfair to see items go for high prices as it's hard to be fashionable with no money and they are poor etc, it makes me feel bad but in the end it doesn't cost alot to be fashionable, i get everything i sell from charity shops!
Don't feel bad! It's hard being a college student! I am about the same as you $60 is a big purchase :) Be proud of the fact that you are able to look totally fab at a great cost so that you can spend your money on other things! I think fashion isn't about how much you spend or the designer label pieces that you own (or buy with credit;) but about how you put things together! Great post:) Do you want to link exchange ?
I totally agree, and think that it often looks better when items are more personal (ie: vintage or charity shop finds) because people tend to try a bit harder when it comes to their looks instead of relying on labels to make them look stylish. You can still look a state wearing designer!
you don't have to explain yourself to anyone. I read your blog everyday and I love your style and it never ceases to amaze me. Even if you do spend a lot on clothes, whose business it is? Jealousy has people eating away at themselves...
And your co-workers probably only think that of you because you manage to look effortless and fabulous all the time....and they probably don't!
I agree with the anonymous post. Your co-workers may just be jealous dearie.
Secondly, you have a gift you work at it and there is nothing wrong with that. At all. Artists make use of the beauty inherent in the world to bring joy to everyone's lives. The fact that you are so inovative and frugile is refreshing...
Thanks for your honest post. :)
Wow, you are actually super :) It's mostly jealousy, because people want to see what they want, rather than what is actually there. They think you do your work with no effort and look amazing with no effort, because you always try to be a positive person and never show any negative effects, which is amazing of you!
Sigh, I wish there were cheap second hand shops or vintage stores around me, I'm always in the sale bin too lol, you get really good finds! Ohhh and I love your hair in the third photograph, it's glowing!!
That dress is so lovely, and more when you said the price! :-)
Clothes can be bought, but style can't. You don't need that much money to create a fabulous style, it's all about having the right sense and how you combine your clothes and accessoares, that might be really cheap.
Lovely dress by the way!
I, too, build my wardrobe around a very tight budget. 'Course I'm not nearly as well put together as you - but I agree with you that style can't be bought. I have friends that don't hesitate to spend hundreds of dollars on outfits and aren't as well turned out as others who are thrift junkies like me.
im also an el cheapo buyer! haha! unless i really really fall inlove and cant sleep thinking about one particular item! :):)
ps. nice tattoos again :)
Word up! Swag is for free. :)
it really goes to show that spending a ton of money doesn't mean better clothes. you look ravishing in this outfit!
Gorgeous, gorgeous. I would try to take the money comments as a compliment - clearly, to them, what you're wearing looks like it cost a lot whereas it was, as far as I can gather, on the whole quite little. How does it look expensive? Because of how you wear it, and the way that you carry it off. That's an achievement in itself. You'll doubtless be familiar with Dolly Parton's famous line - "It takes a lot of money to look this cheap!" Think of yourself as being the opposite.
xox
what annoying comments your co-workers made. Still, take it as a compliment...it must mean you have a grace about you that seems effortless even when you are working very hard. I love that purple dress, by the way. And I also hate when people imply that the only way one can put together nice outfits is by spending a lot. It's as if they are accusing me of being snooty or something.
also, for some reason your site consistently freezes my browser and I have been unable to leave comments for a while. I kept trying though, so finally I can!
I very much understand your aggravation. I actually don't like spending more than $30 on clothing because, I don't know it seems silly. The dress/pants whatever will end up elsewhere eventually anyway so why spend so much money on it.
Being a broke college student does get a bit waring sometimes.
the dress & the handbag are fantastic. damn right style can't be bought.
You look great and its good to know that I am not the only one who buys most of her wardrobe at the thrift store! By the way, I love the picture where youor hair looks bright red. I would keep it that way, and maybe go even brighter the next time. I always wished red hair looked good on me, mostly because bright red hair is somewhat unusual.
Wonderful, honest post! haha, a splurge for me is about 20 bucks...seriously. Well, I am still a kid.
Beautiful dress!
oh sweetie! I know it's hard to be breezy about mean comments, people make, even if they're just unintentional, or petty. But I agree with Natasha, about taking it as a compliment, mostly if people are being negative towards others (even if it is veiled as humor) it's only because something else is bothering them; their personal lives, their own work, their own insecurities.
Further more, and I maybe bias here, I think dressing yourself on the cheap is not only nothing to be ashamed of, but admirable and very very cool. I have an annual clothing budget of 360 euros (a lot more in dollars right now, but with what stuff costs here it's about equal), because frankly, if people can feed themselves for a dollar a day I ought to be able to dress myself with the same amount. In fact, I'm pretty sure that, if everyone spent their money a little more frugally, they'd get a great deal more enjoyment out of that quality, pricey piece, than if it's a weekly occurrence.
I think everyone who reads your blog agrees that we love you for your incredible style, not for how much cash you spent on it and how many labels you're wearing. I for one admire your sartorial ability even more now that I know how inexpensively you create it.
If you never told me the prices of this particular outfit, (or any other) I would not have even cared. What matters to me most is that you always manage to look effortlessly feminine & chic. Price matters not the least! I will admit that mostly all of my clothes have been major steals; either on the sales wrack, or at a thrift store.
Everything you said is so important; I think a lot of girls (fashion bloggers) get wrapped up in the idea of having a high fashion wardrobe, based on the price of things. This is why I enjoy your blog so much... because you are very down to earth, much like myself. :] You won't see me flashing $100 jeans or $200 purses on my blog. I love that.
Anyway, you go girl. :]
aw bless you!
you're a warm hearted soul with great style.
it's polite to fake happiness sometimes, just so you don't look fed up, or tired or even lazy or whatever. some people just don't value that, or appreciate it.
but we do!!!
i still really really want that extrememly cool leaf bag!
I feel the same about buying clothes. I don't like to spend too much money - and I love to do my own stuff :).
Cute look today!
you seem like a wonderful person, do not worry what certain people think. there will always be people like that in this world.
hold your head high and look fab like you always do! :D
also, your bag must have been a wonderful present!! love it.
I would take their comments as a compliment--you are able to dress expensively on a very small budget, something many people are unable to do. You always looks so lovely. That bag... oh the envy! Eating me up!
This is the main reason that this is one of my favorite blogs. Because I'm at the same stage - where I have very limited spending money (I'm actually on a shopping ban right now - I was just figuring out my finances and eek!). So I really admire that you can make do with what you have and don't complain about it either. Often I think "when I get a career I'll..." but its really good to remember to live in the here and now cuz I love being a student and its more fun to work to achieve your style, really.
Last night as i was falling asleep I was thinking how this whole fashion blog world has been effecting my natural way of dressing, while there is nothing wrong with experimenting, I thought to myself that I think i am being too trendy, being that I am 30 now I need to dress more my age (another topic you brought up)! That led me to want to do a post about the diffrence between "trendy" and stylish or fashionable. I think you breifly totched on that with the "style can't be bought" comment, and I agree 100% While I do think trends are fun and love some of them, I need to scale it back a bit, back to my natural way! Thanks for making me think!
I agree with you as well about 60$ being alot and usually, for me, it has to either be amazing jeans, coat or shoes that get that much shelled out!
And thanks for reading my blog and comenting!!
I don't care what it cost, you look priceless in that dress!
man, what everyone else said.
you manage to look amazing every day on a tight budget and seem like a genuinely nice person - both is worthy of applause, in my opinion. some can afford expensive clothes and some can't. it doesn't really matter. sometimes you have to save, and sometimes you don't. all that matters is that you are happy with yourself and your decisions.
don't change for anyone but you and don't let haters get you down.
I believe what you say, people can be so annoying sometimes, they just don't get. Fashion is not about buying expensive clothes and wating all your money on superficial stuff and you sure now that rule and always look amazing (;
Ah, I hate it when people say things or think things that are the total opposite of reality, like what you said about your coworkers.
And as for money, I was raised the same way, not to talk about it.
I love what you said "style can't be bought" soo true!
Well I love your outfit, it makes me think of a modern day mother nature or something, with the leaf bag and just everything, very very cute! Purple looks really good on youu =]
i hope you feel a little better after blogging about this! those are some weird questions you received but i guess people are always curious.
you look great today! and as always i am envious of your surroundings. beautiful!
It's a gift to be able to make things look easy when they're not and will get you far I think, because nobody likes to listen to people complain.
I learned how to shop from my mom, who I don't think I've ever seen buy a piece of clothing at regular price. While I love watching designers, I'm a broke student too and make due with what I can. Though I wish my wardrobe was as impressive as yours.
You're so smart lady. I love the fact that your outfit is so beautiful, and yet it was so cheap. That reminds me, I need to go thrifting this weekend!
I agree with what the other commenters have said. Also, you pointed out yourself that the "illusion of styling" probably makes your wardrobe seem like a pricier investment than it actually is. I think perhaps the people who comment on you spending a lot of money on clothes end up wearing the same outfit combo often and fall into a rut of not dressing creatively, whereas you can rewear items in interesting ways that create new outfits all the time.
I work f/t at a job with a decent salary and I have very few expenses because I live at home, so my price thresholds for things have gone up and I find myself splurging on coveted items. However, I still love a good bargain. I always get a thrill out of someone complimenting a top I found on clearance. When I was in NYC, I received quite a few compliments from clerks in high-end stores on a toque I found for $8 from H&M. It just proves that style comes down to having an eye for quality and aesthetics, not a price tag.
That dress is gorgeous! I love it and the purse is beautifull aswell!
That bag is absolutely lovely!
It would annoy me to no end if people jokingly suggested that I was lazy, or that I didn't work hard, especially if I accomplished a lot, and they were trying to minimize my accomplishments.
But I don't think I would mind if people thought my wardrobe cost more than it did, unless they suggested it in a rude/snobby/putting-down ish way.
so true style can't be bought!
I get you! people always say that I spend a lot on clothes and it's just not true! i buy only in sales..
MHM... so true! Style can't be bought.
So you ask me why your photos end up in-upy when yo udon't try, well may be you're just so sexiful?!
pin-upy*
Nice pictures! And I love your dress! :)
Very true, style cannot be bought. You look fabulous in every outfit. Don't worry about ur coworkers, it takes a lot more effort to put a smile on when u feel like crap than wallow in your problems x
wow lovely photos, you make the typical "barney" colors of green and purple and absolute dream. and who cares are cheap your outfit was, i would never guess, and frankly I don't really care. money doesn't buy taste, just look at all of those stupid designer items like Chanel bikes etc. that just prey off of conspicuous consumption!
i'm sorry you have to put up with those comments. i hate those obnoxious little snide comments that are passed off as a joke, but a really biting remarks. even if they just indicate jealousy it is still rude. you just don't tell someone they must have "no problems" or are "rich" because 99% of time its incorrect and demeaning. i have to admit, I'm actually in the other end of the financial spectrum, I'm an only child who comes from a fairly well-off family and I do get a lot of what I want & often times its not cheap either, so I get comments that are about how my parents will just buy me everything, facecious comments about how many clothes I actually have, and occasionally evil "friends" would come over and "joke" about going through my closet to see how many things still had tags on them. it was frusturating, awkward, inappropriate, and horrible. i basically try not to buy anything these days that i don't love, won't wear constantly, and is easily identifiable as some brand. it makes it easier for me to avoid cruel comments and makes dressing more fun and creative
You look great, creative and smart. Just cuz folks can spend the money on expensive clothes, doesn't mean they have taste or intelligence! Good for you!
Honestly hon you really don't have to justify yourself to anybody. I'm also incredibly private about money matters. In fact I was brought up to consider asking someone what they earn incredibly rude. Personal finance and shopping habits along with the VALUE people place on certain items not only varies from person to person, but it is a totally private matter and none of anyone else's business. There is just no dignity in people making rude comments about you, particularly concerning money. If they want to make comments on the apparent size of your wardrobe, or shopping habits, let them. You don't have to explain yourself or your lifestyle to anyone. Ultimately, they should be grateful that you are putting yourself out there by sharing your style through writing (they keep coming back here don't they?) People shouldn't be making you feel uncomfortable about anything you choose to do. In my opinion, anyone who might say derogatory things about how many clothes you have or how much you apparently spend is quite clearly jealous.
As for your co-workers. I get exactly the same. Working hard to present yourself in a professional manner is harder than it looks. All I can say is that while they think you may be doing nothing, the results will prove otherwise.
xx
I so agree with Young and other commenters. And yes, style can't be bought. You are such a good heart and I love your style!
Maybe it's not the best time... but I just tagged you. Check out my latest post (tag 1). xx
i know exactly how you feel! you should not feel bad at all. i always say that style/clothes is my hobby! people blow hundreds of dollars golfing, cycling, etc etc!
there's nothing wrong with splurging on quality items. you are a smart shopper; dont let the judgemental coworkers get you down!
Style can't be bought, and the pictures look great. Love the purple dress against the green. Like someone over me said, poison Ivyish. I like.
I love your blog today, I completely agree with you. I found myself reding through and nodding my head haa :) xo.
I don't get why people like to get up other people's asses for their perceived spending habits. Everyone has their priorities and can spend their money (or not) as they like. I mind my own damn business when it comes to those things. Jebus.
so true, so true.
I don't have a job, I don't have transportation, and i don't even get lunch money any more--i just save up from the odds and edds and people say I must be rich for having so many things. In truth half the time, more than that IS styling. I can't believe people pay $40 for a pair of bland flats when they could just look a little bit more and find something in an off the road store for so much less.
I hear you. The people I know always say I am obsessed with shopping and I am rich because I have a decent wardrobe. But like you, I basically shop at thrift shops and sales.
you said it, girl! style definitely cant be bought.dont like it bother you too much, as long as you know you work hard and look good, thats the greatest achievment!
I know what you mean. It really annoys me when people say I have a lot of money or spend too much, when in truth I don't think I've ever personally bought anything for more than $40 in my life besides a cell phone. And even now I'm mad I spent so much money on it.
I really like the dress, I've never been able to find those $2.50dresses at thrift stores
I also have a tendency to not show how hard things are. Maybe it's from ballet (what we're told all the time is "the audience doesn't care if you're tired or just had a fight. they want a show- so fake happiness"), but sometimes I'll get a compliment about a paper and I'll say it wasn't that good or yada yada, when in truth I stayed up until 2 that morning reading rereading and editing until I was satisfied.
So I definately feel your irritance when people think you dont' work hard!
I usually dont comment on photos with so many other comments. I feel as if my voice if being lost in a see of opinions and mine will never be considered. Anyhow i cant help but chime in on such intellectual posts of yours.
Its much more impressive to see style at low cost. When you have a small budget it makes you so much more creative! When i was younger i use to save up for designer pieces on ebay. How foolish i was!
No one has the right to question how much you spend on anything, and no one should ever feel they have the business to know or comment on it. I'm sorry to hear that you had to put up with such comments. Even if the swipes were unintentional, they nonetheless sting.
You're absolutely right--style can't be bought. That dress of yours is living proof of it. Some clothes are sold for hundreds of dollars and try to imitate the vintage style, but they never look quite as good. Up until recently (when I was a grad student), $30 would be quite a splurge for me too. Now that my profession demands a very sharp appearance, I do buy more expensive clothes and shoes for those professional functions and occasions. I sometimes splurge on some non-work things, but that's pretty rare, and I don't really need to splurge to look good--it's always the unique thrifted items (often $5 or less) that garner the most compliments.
How interesting—and disappointing—that people think you owe them an explanation for how you spend your money. [shakes head]
It's none of their business.
This dress is beautiful on you.
Love the lighting in this shoot, and as always, you look like a doll! Hope things get better at work, I understand where you're coming from. :)
ugh! people at work suck, don't they!? you def shouldn't have to explain yourself - it's your business, not theirs. i hope they start to leave you alone soon!
anywho, i love your dress - i never find anything that cute when i shop vintage/secondhand! lucky!
:) D
I know you have a million comments on this already but I'll leave one anyway. I know exactly how you feel. $60 is my splurge amount too! I hate it when people make assumptions about my spending habits. I still live at home (rent free) and people think I just swan about spending money and not taking any responsibility. I happen to be saving for a deposit on a house as well as for a move to Melbourne next year and I'm so broke (from saving) that I am living off one bra at the moment. It's ridiculous. My chain smoking, beer swilling friends sometimes bitch at me but I know I'll have the last laugh.
We are quite similar actually. I always hide it if something is wrong and I hate it when people comment on how 'lucky' and 'carefree' I am. Yeah. The harder I work, the luckier I get mofos.
I think you're awesome. And there's no pressure or expectation in that statement.
It's always interesting to see how you can buy a lot with a few money. It's clever and wise. Though my life is really frugal (no nights out, no restaurants, no holidays, no vehicle, etc.) I still can't buy more than a thing once in a while. All my purchases are from Ebay, so as people see me often waiting for packages in the mail they assume I spend a lot, when infact 1. I buy EXCLUSIVELY vintage items from the internet 2. I don't buy anything priced more than 20$.
Euros, the total lack of second hand/thrift/vintage/charity stores in my country, and me living 200miles away from the nearest H&M and others chain stores, are definitely a poor combination.
Smallest the town, richest the stores... if you're searching for designer items we have everything here, but I've never been the 14 years old girl with a Gucci handbag hanging on the arm and now I'm happy of this cause I feel during the years I learnt the value of money.
And yes, I too think it's always polite not to talk of it ;-)
I found your point about how people always think that you spend a lot on clothes very similar to my own situation. It's sort of damned if you do and damned if you don't. For example, at my last job, people used to think I came from a rich family because I wore a different outfit to work. Umm, hello, is there something wrong with caring about how you look. Plus, I get bored wearing the same thing everyday.
I got sick of people constantly going on about how rich I must be. I'm not. I let it slip that most of my clothes were sale/secondhand and then you should have seen the looks on their snobby faces. Pretty much why I quit. They weren't very understanding people.
It's annoying how people have ridiculous preconceptions about you because you put in some effort.
Also, I just wanted to say thank you for how much effort you put into your comments/replies. Some bloggers make you feel as though they aren't really reading or just token replying, but yours are always relevant and just plain lovely.
Oh boy.
First of all, that sucks that your co-workers think you don't do anything.
Second of all, I had no idea you found things that cheap! Quite frankly, it shouldn't matter. I for one have stated the value of items on flickr (because it's partially about the deals), and sometimes on my blog, because I'm a cheapskate and I like to inform peeps about the deals. NOt that there's anything wrong with not stating how much something cost. I don't think that style should be confined to those with a large budget. If anything, those forced to have a tight budget have more creativity due to the fact that they can't just buy any old mass produced cute item.
Thirdly, I'm totally with you on $60. I seriously can't spend large amounts of money on anything. My purse cost $40 and it was a STRUGGLE to hand over my debit card. I love it now and am so glad I bought it, but it was hard. Who says you have to have a $98 dollar urban renewal dress (not that I'm dissing UO) that you could find and alter for all of $5 and a couple of hours?!?!?
Gahhh.
Moving on, your outfit is impeccable. The belt really does it for me =D
oh my god! that dress is so cute! and the colour dresses you perfectly!
i get touchy when people even ask if things are new. i feel guilty for spending money. which, is kinda strange it a world where spending money is a 'good' thing and should be praised.
but, i think your attitude towards money is good. and, for anyone who sneers at spending small amounts of money, and being reluctant to splurge, they should just look at you, and then i'm sure they'd take whatever they said back!
anyway, as long as you stick to YOUR standards, you won't go wrong.
and, to demonstrate...amazing outfit!
Well, we all know that I love the color purple. But great dress, girlfriend!
I agree. There are so many days when I leave the house and my entire outfit from head to toe costs less than $30 because it was all bought secondhand. When someone compliments my dress or shoes I have a terribly tacky habit of saying, "Thanks! I bought it at Salvation Army for only $3!".
Well i would be lying if i said your extensive wardrobe doesn't make me jealous! It is ridiculous though that now bloggers feel the need to justify their buys and how much clothes and money they have. To be honest i don't care how much you or any other style blogger spends on their oufits, i'm just impressed by how its put together.
Btw, that dress is fabulous..i suddenly feel like thrifting again...
You look gorgeous!
And you're right: money doesn't = style.
Oh, dear. I really do hate when people attempt to put you down just because you don't show your struggles and efforts when working or dealing with things. Just because you choose not to whine about it, people seem to think you care less/are less passionate about it. It is highly infuriating and I can understand your frustration. Good on you for not reacting to their comments. At the end of the day you know who you are and what you're worth. People might not see it but if you're satisfied that should be enough.
I really hate when the topic of money comes up. Perhaps its an Asian thing, but I find Asians from older generations to be impossibly nosy. For what it's worth, I've been reading your blog for a long time and have always thought you have impeccable, not expensive, style!
I can't believe people leave comments asking you how much money you spend on clothes. Some people just don't know any better or weren't brought up by parents who taught them manners. Once in a while I'll get money-related questions like that, or my favorite, people asking me how much I weigh. Really! Just ignore them.
This is exactly the kind of thing, though, that makes me a little afraid to buy something designer, even when I find something online that's fairly inexpensive. I'm afraid of getting those money related questions that will make me uneasy. But at the same time I'm afraid of seeming showy, and of course when I think about it it's the thrift store-shopping fashion bloggers that I really admire most, not the ones who have it easy with all designer (or even H&M) finds (seems like cheating sometimes). So keep it up, and don't worry about those kids! You're a lovely dresser.
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i am so in love with that bag!
ahh, it is just so quirky and cute.
Seems like this post is inevitable, and I too find it a bit impolite, even on the blogosphere, to question people's bank accounts.
I agree with you that style can NOT be bought; $60 is a big buy for me too, so I understand just how far you can go on a small budget (I also buy almost everything second hand or on sale).
I feel these posts come about from a general jealously about other people's style. Or maybe people are just wondering how they, can too, dress just like you :D. The former is more desirable a reason.
I feel that people should stop caring though. I love to read blogs where the people can afford things that I could never afford. It's inspiring and it's nice in a sort of little sister, living vicariously, kind of way.
People shouldn't have to feel guilty about their funds, or about their way of living. It is their choice. You look fabulous 24/7, that's all we should care about.
Ohyes, everybody in school wonders how I get so much money to buy clothes. They think that all the money come so easily for me because I am spoilt and pampered. I am a very broke student.I get about 30 a week & I don't even work part time! I always shop at sale sections + thrift stores. & yes, those shoes cost me 40 bucks & although it was SO hard to hand over the 40 bucks, I am glad I did it. But it WAS a struggle. Most people get shocked when they know all my clothes are so cheap and affordable. Most of my dresses even are below 10!
I honestly don't get why people always complain they cannot dress well because they do not have mnoey..
I know such comments suck & as much as I try to not care about them because it's my life, not theirs! Sometimes, it still affects me. But all in all, you are amazing & have fantastic style. People can say what they want. They say such things because they are jealous. I hope you felt better already. Yknw we all love you!
Stumbled across your blog and saw this post. :)
Thank you for speaking up for the irreverence of the price of one's attire and style. Style should be like Wardrobe_Remix's mantra, "it’s not what you wear, it’s how you wear it"!
pretty much everything's been said about the issue, so really, the important thing to remember is to not be bugged by those annoying people. they have a right to ask, i guess, or make their misinformed comments ... but you are a wonderful dresser with a kickass blog and you should just continue doing what you do because we adore you for it.
and as for the people from work? ah, well. they're probably insecure because you always look so lovely and, like you said, you can make things look so effortless. that's totally enviable in my book.
lastly, that's such a great bag and oh my, what a fantastic dress!
You take such beautiful photos. The purple of that dress looks amazing against the green grass and foliage.
You look great in this dress. & I couldn't agree more that style can't be bought. I hate when people ask how one can afford such and such.
i do resonate with the thoughts you've put out in this particular post. i did have the same problem in the past-- can't say i don't still have it, but i'm getting used to it.
the facade of seemingly breezing through life is one that sometimes comes by as an accident-- i.e. not consciously planned to look as such, but i understand the whole deal with frugality.
for years i struggled with that. even if sometimes people accused me of being a spendthrift when i simply put a few cheap things together. like you say, style cannot really be bought; if i happen to look 'stylish' on that day in that particular getup, then so be it. regardless of whether the top cost me 5o cents or fifty dollars.
when i found a pretty well-paying part-time job, i could indulge. it's part luck and also a lot of hard work. comes with sacrifices. i still have to maintain my funds balance, and i stay at home rather than in a dorm, and have no car. it's fine with me. all i hate are those idiots who moan and groan when all they want to do is brag at their big fat handouts from their folks. they can cry foul at another's wardrobe and their lack of it, but i suppose, good riddance to bad trash
I think it's impossible to please everyone, so to hell with them. You work hard for what you have so you don't owe anyone an explanation!
PS. I love love love the bag together with that purple!
I feel a little silly posting a comment, because I'm sure everyone else has said exactly what I'm going to say, but here goes - I had the same problem at my past workplace. I worked in the publishing industry for a while, as an editor, and it was a hugely stressful job. My way of dealing with stress is to internalise it and slap a happy face on, so people always thought I was doing fine and coping with the job easily, which caused some resentment. In fact, when I handed my notice in because the mounting stress had affected my health and relationships so badly, my boss said "Really? But you always look so calm." Like you, I found this really frustrating, but in my case there was a part of me that was secretly a little smug, as if acting like I was effortlessly succeeding was some kind of point of honour ... not my most attractive characteristic.
I also have the same problem with people assuming I spend a lot of money on clothes. I find this particularly grating because at the moment I am working full-time on my book, with only sporadic income from freelancing, and my husband is supporting me. When people comment on my big wardrobe I feel like they are also commenting on how I live my life - as a 'kept woman'. I fall over myself to point out that I buy second-hand clothes that cost hardly anything, and I certainly don't get my husband to buy me luxuries out of his own money, but ... grrr.
Wow, long comment, sorry. Anyway, good luck with these frustrations! I love your blog, and you have a unique sense of style that is priceless. :)
I can see why you are frustrated. I think it's a good idea to address it too. Your style is incredible- I'm amazed by your finds and how you mix colors. Also, thank you for your comment the other day.
When I see your blog I guess I don't question how much your wardrobe cost or anything to do with price. I think I look at your photos, see how not only beautiful you are but how at peace you seem to be with your body. It took me so many post to have the nerve to show a photo of what I looked like. And even when I did post the photo I had a long drawn out post about how ugly I had felt most of my life. I think being comfortable with your body and your appearance is priceless.
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